Shop ’til you drop – compulsive shopping!

November 16, 2009

Shop 'til you drop!I have been promising a blog on compulsive shopping so, here goes. Compulsive shopping is virtually synonymous with overspending or overshopping; so I use the terms interchangeably here.

We’ve all laughed when someone says they’ve done some retail therapy or, they’ve shopped ’til they dropped! Let’s face it most of us have done it at one time or another, and no harm was done. However, for others, and for many years I was amongst them, it isn’t a laughing matter and harm is, or was done.

In her book, “To Buy or Not to Buy – Why we Overshop and How to Stop” April Lane Benson, a New York psychologist, specialising in the treatment of compulsive buying, says “……when we overshop, though we often don’t realize it, we are trying to fill emotional needs with material goods.” She goes on to say that:- “The conclusion is now inescapable: far from trivial, overshopping is an important source of emotional, social, occupational, financial and spiritual misery for a great many individuals and families.”

Mine was mostly financial although the sleepless nights, worrying how I was going to be able to pay my bills, took their physical toll at times.

So, the next time you laugh about someone’s retail therapy, just check in with yourself about whether this might, in actual fact, be something more. There is help available.

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3 Responses to “Shop ’til you drop – compulsive shopping!”


  1. Great post Jill – a subject that does need attention. We have created a society where so much of our success is judged by our possessions that it is difficult to feel successful without buying the latest and greatest gadget/toy while the real problems and costs are being disregarded.
    It’s too easy to write any kind of compulsion off – and it’s time we started to really look at the underlying causes.
    Angel

    • jillporter Says:

      Thanks Angel for this comment and my apologies for not replying sooner. I agree that society has a huge amount to answer for. However, as the saying goes “it’s not what happens to you,
      it’s how you deal with it”
      Whilst I know that this isn’t the correct context for this saying, I still think it applies. When we are stronger emotionally and psychologically, it is much easier to say “no” be it to food or shopping.


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